Message To Wives ]Wives Should Always Re-Brand And Re-Package In Their Marriages-Pastor Adewale.
Pastor Adebisi Michael Adewale had wished to be a journalist but ended up studying Accountancy with the hope of working in a bank. But God told him that rather than balance any account, he would rescue failing marriages and the Igbajo, Osun State indigene has done that for 12 years now. Adewale’s reasons for marriage failure, roles of couples in marriage and the meaning of the different colours of marital beds.
STATISTICS have shown that nowadays, most marriages collapse untimely, others are on the verge of breaking while couples, who should ordinarily enjoy themselves and experience blissful unions, have continued to lament and endure their marriage.
In order to restore, repair and rejuvenate such unions, Pastor Bisi Adewale of the Family Booster Ministries (FBM) on Agege Motor road, Alasia/Ladipo Bus stop, Oshodi, Lagos who is versed in the art of teaching marriagement in order to rescue failing marriages and teach the singles what they ought to know about marriage before stepping into it; has highlighted sex and lackadaisical attitude on the part of couples as major causes of failure in marriage.
According to the man of God, wives ought to learn how to spice their marriages in order to make their husbands theirs alone and not lose them to the other women. “Yes, your husband may be born-again but he is not blind-again. Therefore, a wife needs to rebrand and repackage herself.”
“This is not the are to tie a wrapper on the chest from morning till evening, women should be terrific at home, in the kitchen, on their dressing and sexuality. “It is not a sin for Christian wives to wear transparent nighties with nothing underneath, after the children have gone to bed, for the purpose of satisfying their husbands alone,” said the Pastor who detests indecent dressing.
Adewale described men, whether born-again or not, as being pressured on all sides. The internal pressure is the ability of man to produce sperm regularly as a result of which he is ready to make love at an interval of 40 minutes while the external pressure is as a result of what he sees- pornography, half dressed women, etc. Concluding that a wise man would always run to his wife for succour while the wise woman would accept her husband always. “A righteous man will demand for sex more often from his wife since he has no other person to turn to.” He added.
On how often married couples should make love, the marriage Counsellor said experts posited that twice a week, which amounts to 104 times in a year, but that an average of 80 to 75 times a year is still okay while 74 to 40 times in a year signifies failure on the marital bed.
A publisher and teacher of the Word, Adewale, reminded women, especially Christian women and those married to ministers of God, that their husbands are first men before being men of God and as such should be treated specially where love making is concerned. “I tell the people I counsel that the only place they are not allowed to make love in the home is the kitchen and that is because of the gas cooker and different styles are allowed.
“It is not enough for a Christian woman to be the Proverbs 31 woman because nothing about her sexuality is mentioned in the passage and she can still lose her husband to the other woman, therefore, endeavour to be the Songs of Solomon woman as the Bible marriage is intended to be a romantic marriage.” He added.
Describing the different types of marital bed as Yellow, Red, Brown and Green beds; he said the Yellow bed is where the couple struggle for sex while the woman, when not too tired for love making, stays like a frozen chicken during the act. The Red bed is one devoid of sex, a sexless marriage; while the Brown bed is the ‘dirty’ bed, one of sexual immorality. Adewale however urged couples to let their beds be green as described in Songs of Solomon chapter 1 verse 15 to 17.
Some of the Ministries programmes include the Terrific Wife Summit Convention which holds every year on Easter Monday in Lagos and which is also hosted by some churches once in a while with the aim of teaching women to be terrific at home as wives who are not terrific are terrible; the Mighty Men Summit which holds twice or thrice a year with the aim of turning boys to men and making men mighty.
“A real man is a Daddy while a father is only a sperm donor. A Daddy is dependable, available, distinct, disciplined and yoked with his family.” He explained.
The minister said a daddy who is there for his family, would know how to change diaper and the right time his baby should take a medication. It is not the wife’s business alone but the couples.
Adewale said the Family Booster Ministries also has a College of Marital Success where Certificate, Diploma, Advanced Diploma and Postgraduate Diploma courses are held for six weeks for each of the courses; adding that the City Couples Conference is held every May 29th where couples intimately discuss their families’ problems with the hope of finding solutions to them.
The mother of the ministries programmes is the Breakthrough for Singles Summit which made its debut on the last Sunday in February 2001. That, the FBM is holding in a big way this year at the National Stadium come Sunday, 30th September. The summit is to teach singles what is expected of them before and during marriage and the 23 things they must put in place before saying “I Do!”
“This year’s edition, starting at 2p.m., will feature Erujeje, while the Red Carpet, which is the spices, and starting at 1p.m., will feature a beauty pageant, while music will be supplied by the gyration boys and the Living Voices.” Adewale said.
The Breakthrough for Singles’ Summit, the Pastor noted, was also to empower singles for quick successful marriage.
Pastor Bisi Adewale was born about 40 years ago to Deacon David and Deaconess Abigail Adewale of the Christ Apostolic Church. The fourth of eight children (four boys and four girls), Adewale bagged a Higher National Diploma (HND) in Accountancy from the Lagos Polytechnic, Isolo.
Speaking about his upbringing, Adewale, who grew up in Ile-Oluji, Ondo State said he was a good boy who did not play pranks as a teenager. Rather, he became a choir member in primary six and joined the Sunday school department in Form three. In spite of the fact that parents cited him as a worthy example to their children and wards, he was not born again until the Lord connected his destiny to the reading of a book, The Forces of Darkness by --- Eto, which turned his life around and ever since, he has not looked back. Considered as part of his ministries achievements are the effects of the 55 books written so far on the numerous readers, especially those who feed him back. Come to think of it, Adewale, who is presently described as a prolific writer said he hated writing and that he made photocopies of most of his notes as a student.
He is married to Yomi, also a pastor, who he met on campus at Isolo and got married to because God asked him to do so. “She is an extra-ordinary wife” and their union is blessed with children.
Commenting on the journey so far, Adewale said, “It has been fantastic. No regret. The caller has been faithful to the call.”
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